A common mistake some parents make in talking to their kids about race and privilege is saying that they "don't see color." Ali says that she understands the good intentions behind this statement, but sees how it could be taken the wrong way. As an alternative, she suggests rephrasing it as "I don't discriminate against race."
McKoy adds that saying you don't see color can negate the experiences of BIPOC groups, whose race may be a point of pride or a big part of their identity. Not seeing color can also make it seem as though white people and BIPOC have the same experiences, which is far from the truth. To learn more about this, Faber recommends this article, which emphasizes that although differences shouldn't matter, oftentimes they still do, and that's something white families need to recognize in order to use their privilege for good.
