One of the first monster-size decisions you'll have to make when you become a bride-to-be is about whom you'd like to have as your trusty, nonfussy crew of bridesmaids.
When you sit down to sort out who you're going to ask to take on this gigantic honor, you may feel like you've entered round one of a fantasy football draft (or this season's The Bachelor draft) or like you're trying to pick your team for gym class kickball and you're terrified to hurt anyone's feeling by not calling their name. Figuring out who should be a bridesmaid is a tough task, especially when your roster of dear friends and close family members can make a classroom feel crowded.
So unless you want to end up with a conga line of bridesmaids that wraps around the temple or church you're getting married in, stick with these three tips when picking your lineup of gal pals.
1. Use the Elevator Trick
Imagine you're stuck in an elevator for four hours without any food, phone service, or air conditioning. I know, I know — that sounds like an awful thing to close your eyes and imagine. But when you're thinking about being in that situation, feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and slightly annoyed, quickly name the people you wish were in the elevator with you. Those are the people you may want to consider making your bridesmaids. Weddings can get stressful and suffocating at times. Surround yourself only with people who can help you make the best of that situation and not add to the chaos.
2. Ask the Ones You Want by Your Side
If you're going through reasons you need to ask that person, or that person, or that person, and if those reasons are because they asked me, because they'll never speak to me again if I don't, because I can't ask one person and not the other, it's best to take a step back. Ask only the people you want by your side. Not the people you feel like you have to ask because you're returning a favor or avoiding a future conflict.
3. Chat With Your Fiancé
See how many groomsmen they are thinking of having. You 100 percent absolutely do not have to have an equal amount of people on both sides, but it may help to set a limit. If your groom-to-be is keeping his groomsmen to a small number, that may give you the push you need to keep your bridal party at less people than on a football team.