A Self-Proclaimed "Side Chick" Got REAL About Her Relationship — and Why It Ended

There's nothing honorable about being the other woman — and one self-proclaimed "side chick" totally agrees. She was a willing participant in a relationship with a man for a year, even though she knew the man was married. While the first to admit what she did was wrong, the woman carried on with the affair until something changed: she "caught feelings" for the married man. It was then that she decided to call it quits, and in a juicy AMA on Reddit, the woman got very real about the relationship, answering questions that weren't easy but were brutally honest. Read on to see what she has to say for herself.

What's it like being a side chick? Does the wife know? What did your friends and family have to say?

"I think it all depends on what you're looking for that determines how it is to be a side chick. As far as when things initially started I liked it because I wasn't looking for a relationship or anything serious (of course that didn't last like I thought it would). By the end, when the feelings came into play I hated it. And the wife did know (hear things) at one point but the guy lied saying nothing was happening and she believed him, which was good for us. My friends and family both were pretty disappointed in me for being 'the other girl' when I have been cheated on in pretty much every relationship I've been in so they didn't expect me to a put another female in the position I was once in."

How much money do you think the guy spent on you? And was it more than what he spent on his wife?

"Surprisingly enough our relationship was never like that. It was literally come over, have sex, leave at the very beginning. At the end of it we had gone out to dinner a few times but I never wanted him to buy me gifts or do anything like that. I really just liked his company and spending time with him, that's all. So his wife definitely got all the money as far as that's concerned."

So you basically wanted sex without a relationship? It's kinda ironic that you helped other people cheat while you yourself got cheated on.

"At first, yes, that's exactly what I wanted. And it is ironic and I have no clue if that was my form of 'revenge on the universe' or what it was. I'm sure there's some deep meaning like that for why I did it. I mean by the end of it I caught feelings and wanted it all to end and it did! But as far as why I even allowed it in the first place, I have no clue. No female deserves that."

So now that you caught feelings what's going to happen? What do you want to happen?

"Well the whole situation is done and over with at this point. Me and him have remained civil and friends, kind of have to since we work at the same place. But I told him how I was catching feelings and felt it was best if we ended things and he agreed but a few weeks later text me with the same stuff again so we continued on. Then after a year him and his wife separated and me and him were hanging out much more often and it was no longer just for the sex aspect of it.

"We watched movies, he stayed over, I stayed with him, went out to eat like any normal couple would and he started to get some feelings as well but was still caught up on his wife (I don't blame him one bit) so I told him to just work things out with her and we would stop and he did just that. We don't talk unless we run into each other at work and as far as I know they're doing great and he's not cheating (I could be wrong on that). I still have feelings for him but I think the situation is much better off now."

Did it turn you on more knowing someone is cheating on their spouse with you?

"I would say that at first yeah, the idea of having to hide it and be sneaky made it that much better but over time I did start to feel extremely guilty about it and let the wife know what was happening (that was when they separated for a short period of time). And I think that when they separated and me and him really started to hangout is when I decided that what I done and was doing was wrong and why I told him that I thought they needed to work things out."

There's a whole proud community of side chicks but they are all in for the money.

"Really? I had no idea anything like that even existed! Surprised there's a proud community of them. It's all fun and games at first but I can't help but to think you'd feel sh*tty after a while like I did. Of course, I wasn't getting money either so that could be the key factor."

Hope you realize soon enough this isn't cool. There's tons of single men out there.

"I fully realized it 100 percent and will never do it again! I've been through what she went through because of me and that's a really crappy feeling to know I caused someone that hurt. I've learned from it no doubt!"

Thoughts? It seems like she is genuinely remorseful for her actions, but does that make what she did OK?