When you have a crush on someone, you might feel like you have to impress them and earn their approval, but as your relationship becomes more serious, that pressures begins to fade. Allen describes it this way: "I can do and be and say anything with my partner without feeling judged. I feel seen, I feel heard, I feel safe." When you're in love, you don't feel like you have to earn your partner's attention or feel self-conscious around them. Instead, you feel accepted. "You feel like you're growing, you feel like you're stretching," Allen says. "You feel like you're having the best time of your life, really, and with your best friend."