Dr. Yvonka De Ridder — the clinical sexologist behind JasminTV's #sexishealthy campaign and the CEO of Love, Live, Therapy, LLC — offers expert insight on how to make your partner have a more intense orgasm and how to do it quicker.
Oh let's count the ways. . . . There can be quite the list for each sex — male or female and from there, there could be quite the list for each person. Here are a few things to keep in mind to achieve the big O a bit quicker because gentlemen, I hate to say it, you would be surprised how many women may not prefer the all-nighters — it gets sore! Sometimes we prefer the fast track, so don't be embarrassed if you're right there with us.
The best ways to help make your partner orgasm faster are:
- Foreplay! So many people forget about the importance of foreplay! It sets the mood, the mental precedence, the emotional precedence, and the physical one! Play with everything other than the main focus points for some time, and work them up.
- Pay attention to the sensitive areas — the head of the penis and the clitoris — be kind, be gentle, and be anything else only when they ask for it.
- Let them be in charge of their pleasure. It's their responsibility, not yours. You are just the "assistant" and vice versa. Ask questions — encourage them to communicate about what they like in a sexy and sensual way so they are comfortable with it.
- Play with your partner's balls — when performing oral on a male partner and he's taking too long to orgasm, the best way to facilitate release is to engage with his balls. Use your tongue in a way that teases and is "out of the box." Things like tracing shapes with your tongue (up and down, side to side, etc.) or even putting them in your mouth altogether. This will ensure that the orgasm is way more intense and superpleasurable.