If you think you might be in a toxic relationship, the best place to start is noting the signs and seeking support from trusted friends, family, and perhaps a therapist, Lawless says.
"Challenging a toxic partner is exceptionally difficult and will require self-reflection, feedback, and support," she says. "Once you have the support you need, set boundaries and honor them by standing up for yourself in a respectful yet firm manner. If your partner does not acknowledge or exhibit a need to change, be clear about the consequences you intend to enforce should they refuse to honor your boundaries. This may involve seeking couple's counseling or leaving the relationship."
If you're in an abusive situation and your safety is threatened, Lawless encourages discreetly reaching out to local resources, such as a domestic-violence shelter, to prepare yourself and be able to access them should you need them.
The bottom line: "Recognizing these dynamics is the first step toward healing from them," Lawless says. "Remember that you are deserving of respect, love, and healthy relationships. You are enough."
If you feel you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship, please use the National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 1-800-799-SAFE.
