10 Things Your Partner Should Never Say to You

Despite how the old "sticks and stones" saying goes, words can often cut deep. And when something hurtful is said, it's not easily forgotten. There are certain phrases that should be forbidden in a relationship, and knowing them now might help prevent them from spilling out later. Regardless of whether you're in the heat of the moment or simply not aware of the impact of your words, you should always be careful and cognizant about what you say. See 10 things your partner should never say to you.

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"It's all your fault."
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"It's all your fault."

Placing the blame on somebody else never solves the issue, even if they really were the source. Your partner should avoid pointing fingers and potentially escalating the situation and should explain how they feel rather than using accusatory statements.

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"He/she always did X for me."
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"He/she always did X for me."

Never, I repeat, never bring in the exes. Comparing your SO to someone else will not only anger you, but it could also imply that they're not completely over their previous relationship. This might even cause you to constantly worry about not being good enough. If your partner wants you to change in some way, they should ask what they need from you as a partner in a constructive way.

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"That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard."
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"That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard."

As a loving partner, they should be accepting of all your ideas and goals. If they keep shooting them down, you might not feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with them anymore. As ridiculous as some of the things an SO might say, there are better ways to show disapproval than outright rejecting them.

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"Ugh, I just want to slap you right now!"
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"Ugh, I just want to slap you right now!"

Even if they'd never take things to a physical level, saying so isn't that much better. In the peak of an argument, your partner should resist the urge to blurt out damaging things like this. It won't solve a single problem, and it'll probably fire you up even more.

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"You can't do anything right."
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"You can't do anything right."

This phrase is one of the most dangerous because the more you hear it, the more you might start to believe it yourself. Telling you that you're incompetent — even if they don't mean it — is extremely hurtful. This could affect a person's overall confidence and self-worth.

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"I told you so."
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"I told you so."

Telling someone that you were right and they were wrong is one of the most satisfying moments, but it doesn't improve the situation in any way. Not only is it totally annoying, but it can also hurt your ego in a way that goes beyond their playful intentions.

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"If you love me, you would . . ."
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"If you love me, you would . . ."

It's not fair for your partner to guilt trip you into getting their way. Putting that kind of pressure on you is manipulative because they know you're more likely to fulfill their request when they put your love in question.

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"Don't wear that."
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"Don't wear that."

When has criticizing your significant other ever ended well? If they love you, they wouldn't care about your appearance anyway. Instead, they should suggest their favorite pieces of yours rather than making you feel self-conscious and bad about your style choices.

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"You complete me."
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"You complete me."

This may sound sweet, but it can actually be very problematic. This could suggest a certain amount of dependency that exceeds a healthy level. Be wary of this phrase, because it can come with many expectations.

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[Insert disrespectful words here.]
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[Insert disrespectful words here.]

No one should ever tolerate being disrespected — especially by someone who claims they care about you. Take notice of any patterns and remove yourself from the toxic relationship if your partner continues that kind of awful behavior.