Real Couples Share How They Keep the Spark Alive in Their Marriages

Updated on 4/14/2018 at 6:05 PM

It takes more than vows to make a marriage last for years and years. Keeping that necessary spark alive in a couple takes so many things. Commitment. Compatibility. Dedication. Mutual goals. Respect.

After talking to many happily married couples, it was a joy, and at times funny, to hear how real-life couples keep the spark alive in their marriages. Whether it's separate bank accounts or just having fun together, it is possible to have a happy marriage full of life even 20 years or more later!

According to one happily married woman, keeping separate bank accounts helps keep the spark alive.

Knowing how to still have fun together, 25 years later, counts majorly.

Having your own identity and friends outside of the marriage is a huge boon to one married couple's spark.

Making time for each other, outside of the kids, is an absolute must to keep the love burning.

Real Couples Share How They Keep the Spark Alive in Their Marriages

According to one happily married woman, keeping separate bank accounts helps keep the spark alive.

Knowing how to still have fun together, 25 years later, counts majorly.

Having your own identity and friends outside of the marriage is a huge boon to one married couple's spark.

Making time for each other, outside of the kids, is an absolute must to keep the love burning.

Picking up each other's slack — sometimes you'll do more of the work and sometimes your partner will.

Common courtesy: being polite, thanking each other for small things goes so far, and using a kind tone even when arguing.

Not overbooking ourselves as we are already busy — this way we have time for each other, said one happily married woman.

Forgive each other and always remember why you chose that person in the first place.

Do things together, like dancing and karate. Enjoy each other.

Laugh together and have a sense of humor too, please.

Check in with each other on your own individual goals and then help each other achieve them.

Don't be lazy. Always, always date your wife, advised one husband.