33 Annoying Things I Learned Planning My Own Wedding
I got married during Summer on a beautiful, emotional, love-filled day — one which I planned myself, eschewing a wedding planner. I nixed the idea early on, thinking it wasn't something I wanted to spend money on, and I also thought I'd enjoy doing all the planning myself. I love research! I love being organized! Especially when it's all for one lovely day my husband and our families would remember our whole lives. While I'm happy to say that everything turned out great, the long road of planning had its highs and lows — and the lows were so annoying, I wondered why I was trying to plan such a hullabaloo (I remembered eventually).
You will totally have it together in the very beginning.
You have SO much fun at first, picking out your dress and looking at venues!
God, it's so fun.
You'll get the hang of Pinterest and Etsy.
These former mysteries will become useful and usable to you!
You'll get addicted to Pinterest and Etsy.
As if you needed another Internet addiction.
You realize: no one will say no to you simply because you're the bride.
Seriously, people REALLY don't want to say no to you.
Everyone gives you final say on every minor detail.
It can go to your head.
There will be details that you won't be able to find the PERFECT version of.
You'll become obsessed with stuff you didn't think you'd care about.
Stuff like the perfect ring dish. You didn't even think about ring dishes before, ever!
You will start to question your own sanity when you spend three months on a certain detail.
No invitation will define you or your relationship. Just pick one.
Then it starts to change. After all the dress shopping and cake tastings and fun stuff, you'll start dealing with logistics.
You'll find how much everything REALLY costs.
And realize you can't afford all the things you wanted at first.
You'll have to make a million Google Docs for stuff, and they will rule your life.
No matter how you try to proceed, someone will call you a bridezilla somewhere.
You just have to learn to let it go.
Some people will tell you that you should have done something six months ago.
Why do you need to hang on to wedding bands for six months? Explain this to me.
People will criticize your choices randomly.
Who cares if I wanted to wear an ivory dress, while the guys wore white shirts? Not a thing.
You'll cry over something dumb.
You actually hope to cry in front of a stranger instead of someone you know, because then you're that crazy bride.
Someone will tell you this is why you hire a wedding planner.
You're like, what? I can make a seating chart.
It doesn't sound that hard at first.
Then you'll try to arrange a seating chart.
There will inevitably be RSVP dramz.
And you learn to respect the RSVP.
Why invite anyone, you'll think?
And then finally, you remember why you wanted this in the first place.
You'll understand why everyone decides, at some point in wedding planning, that eloping is the best idea.
You won't be able to complain about this stuff to anyone but other brides.
Because this is supposed to be the happiest time of your life. But you're trying to be an event planner.
You'll start getting overwhelmed with all the things you have to do.
And you realize why people hire wedding planners: sanity.
But then you'll learn to delegate, and then stuff will magically get done for you.
You'll learn what's really important for you to spend money on.
Like more wine.
And what to cut.
Who needs favors anyway?
You'll learn to talk yourself down from the ledge.
Your fiancé should help with that, too.
Everything will start to right itself.
You'll get through it and start to get your positive attitude (and excitement) back.
And when you see it all come together, and it's awesome, you'll feel awesome.
And you'll be married to someone awesome, which, yes, my friends, is awesome.