While recently interviewing TV host Tamron Hall for a feature on OprahMag.com, actress Gabrielle Union spoke about the struggles that come with being a black mom, like explaining Santa Claus to children.
"I'll say to my husband, 'Let's tell the kids their Christmas gifts are from Santa.' And my husband is like, 'There's no way in hell I'm letting these kids think that old white man is sneaking into our house and doing anything for them,'" Gabrielle said. "Because he didn't grow up believing in Santa Claus. And we have these conversations when it comes to raising our children about where to draw the line between fantasy and, 'Hey, that's not how life works.'"
Tamron and Gabrielle also touched on the issue of mom guilt, agreeing that men certainly don't seem to have the same feelings of inadequacy women often have.
"It's funny though . . . I talk to active, successful dads about balancing parenthood and guilt, and they have a complete absence of the notion of guilt," Gabrielle said. "And these are dads who are involved — I'm talking about 50-50 parents, people like my husband, who has full custody of his children and took the longest paternity leave from professional sports last year. But he doesn't talk about feeling guilty when he's away from his children."
Gabrielle continued: "No one has ever asked him questions like 'Do you feel guilty for missing things with your kids?' The assumption is that mothers should experience guilt for missing things, but with dads, it's just not a thing. So when I get asked that question in interviews, I don't mind shaming the interviewer like, 'I've noticed that you interviewed Warren Buffett or Jay Z, and never once did you ask them how they balanced it all with their children.'"
Touché, Gabrielle, touché!