It happens to the best of us — a child refuses to eat their dinner or a glass of milk spills, and we lose our mind. These freak-outs, unfortunately, have a negative affect on our kids.
"When we get upset, they get upset, and everything escalates," Rubin says. Her solution: treat the problem like it's no big deal. That, however, doesn't mean to ignore it. "It’s not dismissing it and it’s not pretending something isn’t wrong. It’s just controlling your actions."
To do this, Rubin suggests reminding yourself to stay calm on a daily basis, even if you are already at ease. This way, when something happens, the peaceful mentality is already present. Not only does this keep you (and everyone around you) composed, but it helps you better handle the situation.
"If you act calmer you feel calmer, and that gives you the wherewithal to deal with whatever you're facing."
