There is no reason to yell at your kids.
When frustration levels reach their peak, yelling often feels like the only way parents can be heard. But Dr. Markham says yelling doesn't work — it only demonstrates bad behavior that children will follow. Rather than raise your voice, she offers three pieces of advice.
- When you get upset, remind yourself that you're the role model and return yourself to calm.
- Use a version of the golden rule or "be kind" as your number one family rule. Set limits on teasing and mean words as well as physical violence.
- Allow all emotions; limit behavior. Kids are allowed to be angry and to express that to each other, but they aren't allowed to attack each other physically or verbally.