Popsugar Family Relationships Reasons You're Not Having Sex With Your Spouse 14 Reasons You're Not Having Sex With Your Spouse (and How to Fix It) June 14, 2018 by Laura Lifshitz View On One Page Photo 5 of 14 ADVERTISEMENT () Start Slideshow Share This Link Copy ← Use Arrow Keys → 5 Sex That's Too Routine If things become too routine in the bedroom, one of the partners or both might retreat. Sex could become scarce. Tips: Have a brutally honest conversation about it but don't blame your partner. Take responsibility as well. After all, it takes two to tango! Make the effort to spice it up with a sexy activity like a massage, a bath or shower together, a sexy film, or boudoir photos. Previous Next Start Slideshow RelationshipsMarriageSexAdvice