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How to Perform a Striptease

Easy Ways to Make Your Striptease Supersexy

Handcuffs, spanking, costumes, and stripteases — we've all got our fantasies. The good thing is, you can very easily make some of those sexy dreams come true. The key to keeping things exciting is confidence, and one of the hottest things you can do for your partner is take control and give them a good ride — literally. We know, we know . . . sometimes all you want to do is rip off each other's clothes and get down to business. But there's something to be said for delayed gratification. Our favorite form of this is with an expertly executed striptease. Here are some easy ways to get your partner bothered, and they are all very, very hot.

What to wear

  • Dress up in the color you know they like. Let's be honest — you can't really go wrong with black or red, especially if there's leather or lace underneath. If you wear a skirt or dress, it's easier to get to the grand finale, but it can also be fun to add on a few layers of clothing so that you can draw out the process of taking them off.
  • Make sure you're comfortable with what you're wearing. If you don't feel sexy, then what's the point? Choose something you know your partner will like, but something that you are confident in as well. Stilettos and knee-high boots are pretty much always a guaranteed turn-on, but there's something to be said for a natural bare-feet-and-T-shirt kind of look, too.
  • If you really are into the performance, then look the part, whatever that may be in both of your fantasies. When dancing, show off your neck, cleavage, or other small parts of your skin — but don't bare it all. The tease of something more will drive them mad. In a good way . . .

Set the mood

  • Put on music that's got a slow and steady tempo so you can take your time getting undressed and dancing. Make sure it's not too slow though (you can save that for when you're doing the actual deed). It's a good idea to have some type of continuous sexy playlist on your Spotify mix or iTunes so the song doesn't end in the middle of your dance.
  • Dim the lights to set a romantic mood. Light candles to add to the ambiance.
  • If they're down to be dominated, handcuff or tie your partner with their hands behind his or her back or to the bed, and make sure that they are wearing nothing or next to nothing.
  • Continually brush parts of your skin against them when you get started — especially if they are tied up — but don't let them take control or touch you back. Make them wait for it!


  • Start by gently taking off any gloves that you are wearing. Stroke your hands one by one and move them into your hair, your chest, and down your torso.
  • Turn around and lift your skirt or dress. This is a very tantalizing angle. Smack your bottom and smile at them . . . they'll never see it coming. Slowly and smoothly start by grabbing the hem of your top and take it off. Have something sexy underneath, of course. Caress whatever body part you reveal as you reveal it so that they can imagine doing the same to you. Keep eye contact.
  • Do some bumping and grinding against their groin to the time of the music in just your bottoms. Draw it out as long as you can. Focus on lengthening your legs or bringing attention to the body part you love the most about yourself. Again, the more confident and sexy you feel inside, the more it will show during your dance.
  • Work with what you've got in the house. Slide up and down the wall, use a chair, brandish a riding crop or whip — improvise with objects while you move around.
  • Lastly, remove your bottoms in one motion — but leave those stilettos and thigh-high stockings on if you wore them. Trust us. Throw what clothing is left across the room. Dance for them, arching your back and body. Finally, let them touch and kiss you. Keep up the dance for as long as you can, then move on to the really good stuff.
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Anneleah Anneleah 7 years
I've Seen thistools of seduction. Still haven't tried it. But soon I will. Always wanted to try that.
brittanie brittanie 8 years
carmen is hot but so is this chick: she teaches how to striptease and how to do many other things!
VeronicaSmiles VeronicaSmiles 9 years
Hey Gals, I bought a course (yes I did) online on how to give a lapdance. Some of it was a little cheasy...but it was packed with good videos teaching the basics up to advanced stuff...and it had a section on how to look good naked...and how to feel sexy...that quite honestly were really good tips. Even if you don't like buying things online it has a free email newsletter that will give you some good advice. YOu can find it here: Hope this helps.
kittycat kittycat 10 years
i'd feel so weird doing this and i cant dance. but! i think the men would be so in the moment that they wouldnt notice any mistakes in our dance. so i say girls go girl!
Brittany14706805 Brittany14706805 10 years
My bfs never mentioned wanting one but i know he wouldnt mind one. Problem is id feel awkward doing it. i dont know i guess its becuase weve been together almost 5yrs.. im 20 yrs old and ive never done nething like that so to start now just would feel funny. But im not saying i wouldnt want to try it. just trying to imagine my bfs face since weve been together so long and ive never done stuff like that. ahhh what to do .
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
karlorene karlorene 10 years
thanks for the suggestion "you can leave your hat on"... my bf wants a strip tease for his bday too ahaha.
H0T-Tamale H0T-Tamale 10 years
it's always great going to your nearest costume shop ,you can strip and role play at the same time :p oh just thought about Demi Moore in the movie strip tease ,on one of the scenes she had this sexy tuxedo .
LaylaCams LaylaCams 10 years
I don't think I have a sexy alfit?
H0T-Tamale H0T-Tamale 10 years
(heheh) i'm with kimmi up there .just relax put on the sexiest music whatever gets you into the mood and go with the flow.i've done this before and it's one of the best things to keep the fire burning.ooh ! and don't forget to put on the sexiest alfit..oh and one tip ,if your gonna wear heels put on a pair that you can actually move into..don't wanna fall flat on your face and if you do just play it off somehow ,think of Jammie lee Curtis in that movie true lies lol you can practice in front of the mirror first with whatever your going to wear.muuah! happy stripping ;p
3Sweeties 3Sweeties 10 years
Def choose a song that really makes you feel sexy. I really like "You Can Leave Your Hat On" by Joe Cocker. Another good thing to do is have a DRINK before (or 2!) to ease those jitters. I did it for my hubby before baby #2, and it made him a happy, happy man.
Adriana42 Adriana42 10 years
I've never done a striptease but this gives me an idea and i think i'll be ordering those Carmen Electra tapes and surprise my boyfriend, his b-day is coming up in a few months too..
Toronado Toronado 10 years
Hell, Mo, I think it's great advice if you're into that sort of thing. Of course, all the underagers on the site are probably scrunching their faces at the computer and going, "eeeeeeee-e-e-e-eewwww!"
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
LMAO so just took that whole thing to another level............I will definately not be able to do this particular 'tease' without thinking about this thread....too funny* I've done this kind of thing many times for my man, but now I will giggle without saying why I'm laughing........
gracey gracey 10 years
I've thought of doing this for my guy but can't help feeling totally ridiculous and not sexy at all. :( Maybe a bottle of wine first would help? lol ;)
Toronado Toronado 10 years
LOL mels...I was thinking the exact same thing. I can picture myself getting ready for a night of passion and getting everything ready: "Top hat? Check. Fishnets? Check. Motion Lotion? Check. Glow-in-the-dark rubbers? Check. Fuzzy handcuffs? Check. Okaaaaay, now, the Sugars said I should undress slowly, being sure to sexually harass myself in the process. Throw the clothes around the room, not in his face, yeah. Aaaaand...slap my ass, I think I'll shove it in his face for good measure. OhSHIT...where the hell did I put the KY lube...?"
honeysugar28 honeysugar28 10 years
When I saw this headline I immediately thought of Carmen's video. We play it at Bachelorette parties for fun. I don't see how this can be sexy I'd feel ridiculous doing this though.
serendipitous serendipitous 10 years
Reading this, made me really want to do one for my boyfriend.. sad thing is.. I HAVE NO RYTHYM AT ALL! :( So i think i would look silly doing a strip dance :( Any helpful hints for people who can't dance?? lol I want to try those carmen videos since you guys rave about them..
t0xxic t0xxic 10 years
Carmens dvds are great!!!!! And a good work out But I cannot help but giggle at seeing smack your bottom on Dear Sugar lol Great Advice I hope he has a very happy birthday!
heatherp heatherp 10 years
why wait for his bday?
My-Opinion My-Opinion 10 years
hehee, looks your man will have a happy birthday!
SweetPeasMom SweetPeasMom 10 years
The Carmen DVDs are awesome. I highly recommend them.
mels mels 10 years
Uhh...never thought I'd hear the sugars telling me to smack my bottom while my man is handcuffed nude to the bed. Branching into some new territory here!
KimmiAnn KimmiAnn 10 years
I've done this!!!!! Danced to Rag Doll by Aerosmith and he loooooved it! I do one every year for his bday and he still can't get enough! Believe in Magic!
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