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20 Things That You Do When You're in a Long-Term Relationship

Things You Do in a Long-Term Relationship

20 Things That You Do When You're in a Long-Term Relationship

Things You Do in a Long-Term Relationship
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Every relationship has a "honeymoon phase" filled with butterflies, kisses, and the thrill of new love . . . and once that fades, you start peeing with the door open. Yeah, that sounds harsh and unromantic, but the truth is that long-term relationships have their own perks. From being 100 percent comfortable with your partner to memorizing one another's favorite pizza toppings, here are 20 things that couples are guilty of once they hit long-term status. Trust us, these will sound familiar!

Judging new couples for their "honeymoon phase" habits like extreme PDA, wanting to be together all the time, and constantly texting when they're apart. Finishing one another's sentences so often that it makes people uncomfortable. Unintentionally dressing alike. Being asked for a back-scratch and quickly replying "only if you give me one, too!"
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  1. Judging new couples for their "honeymoon phase" habits like extreme PDA, wanting to be together all the time, and constantly texting when they're apart.
  2. Finishing one another's sentences so often that it makes people uncomfortable.
  3. Unintentionally dressing alike.
  4. Being asked for a back-scratch and quickly replying "only if you give me one, too!"
1 / 5
Being honest about wanting to watch your show/read your book/be on social media instead of hanging with them. Memorizing one another's favorite food orders in every different cuisine. Complaining about everything — work, vacations, family, you name it — and knowing they won't judge you for your feelings. Wearing each other's clothes like they're your own. Their flannels = your flannels.
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  1. Being honest about wanting to watch your show/read your book/be on social media instead of hanging with them.
  2. Memorizing one another's favorite food orders in every different cuisine.
  3. Complaining about everything — work, vacations, family, you name it — and knowing they won't judge you for your feelings.
  4. Wearing each other's clothes like they're your own. Their flannels = your flannels.
2 / 5
Speaking in a language of inside jokes that only the two of you understand. Bonus points for weird voices that you only use with each other. Falling into a nightly routine without even realizing it. Doing things for each other that newer couples wouldn't dream of — plucking his stubborn unibrow hair, picking up her favorite tampons from the store, and so on. Getting excited to have the house/bed to yourself (but then not being able to sleep the same without them next to you).
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  1. Speaking in a language of inside jokes that only the two of you understand. Bonus points for weird voices that you only use with each other.
  2. Falling into a nightly routine without even realizing it.
  3. Doing things for each other that newer couples wouldn't dream of — plucking his stubborn unibrow hair, picking up her favorite tampons from the store, and so on.
  4. Getting excited to have the house/bed to yourself (but then not being able to sleep the same without them next to you).
3 / 5
Leaving old bathroom rules behind — you pee, fart, shave, and everything in front of the other person. Appearances be damned. Being really excited to travel together, but being just as excited to do things without them. Valuing little things like doing the dishes or cooking dinner more than romantic gestures like flowers. Not being afraid to give your partner constructive criticism and honest advice, even if it means that those pants do make their butt look big.
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  1. Leaving old bathroom rules behind — you pee, fart, shave, and everything in front of the other person. Appearances be damned.
  2. Being really excited to travel together, but being just as excited to do things without them.
  3. Valuing little things like doing the dishes or cooking dinner more than romantic gestures like flowers.
  4. Not being afraid to give your partner constructive criticism and honest advice, even if it means that those pants do make their butt look big.
4 / 5
Making new couples uncomfortable on double dates by bringing up topics that they're not even close to tackling yet — marriage, kids, and those sorts of subjects. Choosing Netflix and PJs over romantic date nights more often than not. Being way more open about wants and needs. Instead of saying "I don't want anything" for your birthday, you're totally cool sending links and gift ideas. Learning the difference between proximity and quality time — visiting a new restaurant and seeing a movie is much different than doing laundry together after work.
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  1. Making new couples uncomfortable on double dates by bringing up topics that they're not even close to tackling yet — marriage, kids, and those sorts of subjects.
  2. Choosing Netflix and PJs over romantic date nights more often than not.
  3. Being way more open about wants and needs. Instead of saying "I don't want anything" for your birthday, you're totally cool sending links and gift ideas.
  4. Learning the difference between proximity and quality time — visiting a new restaurant and seeing a movie is much different than doing laundry together after work.
5 / 5
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