Alyssa Asaro from YourTango explains why he might think you're out of his league.
Because you are, duh.
Sad to say but not everyone is at the same level. It can be due to maturity issues or the way that you think differently from the person that you like.
There are lots of reasons why you may be too good for a guy, and vice versa. Some couples are stuck in relationships where the other partner isn't giving their all.
They do all the work, pay the bills and instead of realizing they deserve better, they just settle for less than they deserve.
If you have ever met a guy who gives you less than you deserve only to later find out that you were way out of his league and deserved better, you know that reality doesn't hit right away.
Insecurity can't be masked behind shallow back-handed compliments. It seems a bit extreme to think of a harmless phrase so negatively. To say that someone is out of another person's league pays a genuine compliment to the other person.
Later, you catch yourself making all the phone calls, scheduling all the dates, and it feels like the only reasons the relationship is going somewhere is because you are doing the driving.
Is he thinking that you are out of his league and afraid to give it his all? Or are you simply missing a signal that you should have read long ago?
But the person who is making the assumption is selling themselves short. It implies that the other person is somehow better than them which isn't necessarily fair.
People think that complimenting one person but insulting themselves is okay, but it's not. We should see others as equals instead of some ideal who we created out of fantasy.
Here's how he thinks when he looks at your zodiac sign traits and his, using a bit of astrology and horoscope signs.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus men are known for being stubborn. This need to hold on to their opinions translates onto people and they can become overly jealous and possessive. Being out of his league is synonymous to being unattainable to them. If they can't have you, then they'll pretend that it's by no fault of their own.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini men are known for their appreciation of the arts. With a firm grasp on the spoken word, they want to see beyond that and learn more about people and the world. By saying that you're out of his league, he saw something beautiful woven in you like a movie or a song. You're beyond what he knows.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer men are more sentimental than most other horoscope signs. They rely on the feelings that people give them to judge their character. If they believe you to be out of their league, it is because you have experienced much more life than they have. In other words, you are more complex than they are.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo men are confident to a fault. If you are out of his league, he might not be used to being shown up. You are self-loving and radiant and he's not used to people outshining him.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo men are analytical and critical. What they like most about their partners are the little details. If they believe you to be out of their league, it is due to their own self-consciousness.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra men can't stand confrontation or conflict. They will go great lengths to avoid having to admit that something isn't right. If you are out of his league, it is because you are too strong and independent. This can come across as domineering and assertive to a Libra man.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio men are fiercely loyal and passionate. They wear their hearts on their sleeves and are typically very open. When someone is considered to be out of their league, it is because they have too much mystery surrounding them.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius men are determined and curious. If they have their eyes set on you, they will do whatever it takes for you to give them a chance. Therefore, if you are out of their league, it is because you have turned down their advancements. But don't worry, they like a challenge.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn men are the leaders. Responsible to a fault, they love their routine lifestyle. Therefore, if you are out of their league, it is because you are wild and uncontrollable. You play life by your rules, not theirs.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius men are introverted and tame. Enjoying their own company, they are closed off from most people. If you are out of their league, it is because you scare them. You make them want to let someone else in.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces men are selfless, always going out of their way to be there for others. They trust everyone and give everyone a fair chance. If someone is out of their league, they must be afraid of getting hurt by you. By being out of their league, you're too valuable to risk losing.
Alyssa Asaro is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.
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