15 Ways to Heal and Get Your Groove Back After Divorce

By Laura Lifshitz

Updated on 2/5/2017 at 8:00 PM

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StockSnap | Allef Vinicius

Finding a new normal after divorce can take some time, especially if you're feeling very wounded over the loss of the marriage. It is so important though, even more than dating or anything postdivorce, to allow yourself to heal and feel good again. You'll be no good to anyone, much less yourself, if you don't allow yourself to discover who you are in this new single, postmarried life. Try these 15 ways to discover who you want to be today and move forward. It DOES get better!

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Start the day with a little meditation or yoga, setting your mind at ease.
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Start the day with a little meditation or yoga, setting your mind at ease.

02
Make it extra sweet — indulge now and again, and lay the chocolate on thick.
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Make it extra sweet — indulge now and again, and lay the chocolate on thick.

03
Rebuilding finances after divorce is hard but empowering — see a financial advisor and get in control again.
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Rebuilding finances after divorce is hard but empowering — see a financial advisor and get in control again.

04
Have a delicious and meaningless fling or one-night stand — no one's judging.
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Have a delicious and meaningless fling or one-night stand — no one's judging.

05
Write a letter to the bride you once were and congratulate her on growing up into someone even more amazing.
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Write a letter to the bride you once were and congratulate her on growing up into someone even more amazing.

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Do something carefree and meaningless that takes you back to your childhood.
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Do something carefree and meaningless that takes you back to your childhood.

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Put on your sexiest heels and go out with the girls.
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Put on your sexiest heels and go out with the girls.

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What better way to become a Ms. again than a "girlcation" with your best friend?
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What better way to become a Ms. again than a "girlcation" with your best friend?

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Make time to relax with a good book — your body, brain, and heart need some serious downtime.
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Make time to relax with a good book — your body, brain, and heart need some serious downtime.

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Journal your feelings and figure out who you want to be — it's also better than being a mess or oversharing on social media.
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Journal your feelings and figure out who you want to be — it's also better than being a mess or oversharing on social media.

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Get it, girl — the gym is your BFF postdivorce.
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Get it, girl — the gym is your BFF postdivorce.

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Buy yourself flowers — each day, if it makes you feel good.
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Buy yourself flowers — each day, if it makes you feel good.

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Why not adopt woman's best friend? There's no love that compares to the love from a dog.
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Why not adopt woman's best friend? There's no love that compares to the love from a dog.

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Schedule alone time — you'll even start to like it.
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Schedule alone time — you'll even start to like it.

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Take a little trip . . . seeing new sights and new people can give you a whole new perspective.
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Take a little trip . . . seeing new sights and new people can give you a whole new perspective.