A healthy relationship is one with balance. You should each push and pull, and any type of controlling should be done with each person's consent. However, control issues related to power trips are not good.
"Relationships based on control of one partner over another [are] a major red flag," Dr. Mendez says. "In situations in which one partner controls another, the relationship is one with a power differential and cultivates resentment, jealousy, and distrust."
Lopez suggests bringing your concern up to your partner to try to work through it if you you feel comfortable addressing it. If they're unwilling to listen or adjust their behavior, that's a major red flag that is more than enough reason to break up.
