Kondo spends a lot of time explaining how much you can treasure and appreciate your belongings by saying things like "thank you for keeping me warm" when you take off your coat. Silly as they may sound, it's lovely to appreciate your possessions in this way, and it works the same way with dates. Everyone loves to feel appreciated, and once you've whittled down the folks you're actually interested in, you'll find yourself noticing your appreciation more.
With less clutter in your dating atmosphere, it's easier to remember that someone recommended a great book to you and send them a friendly text saying how much you enjoyed reading it. Perhaps that relationship fizzled a bit, but your appreciation resparks something that could be really great. Don't be afraid to throw some gratitude out there.
