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An Age When Parents Should Stop Showering With Their Tot?

Some families bare all around the house and don't give a second thought to being in the buff, while modest parents cover up their unmentionables once their children get to be a certain age. Forty-nine percent of our readers said they'd never shy away from showing it all. But when it comes to cleansing in close quarters like the bathtub or shower, is there a certain time when soaping up should be a solo activity? If so, then when?

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LeahGoodman LeahGoodman 3 years

When I take my kids to the pool, I shower them quickly, in their bathing suits, under the shower that you're supposed to use to wet down before getting into the pool, wrap them in towels, and take them home for a proper shower.

My 5-year-old son is too big for the women's locker room, and too small to be by himself.

SeanBambic SeanBambic 3 years

If some families chose to shower together until their kids are in their 20's isn't that up to them? I also don't see an issue with friends who are not related showering with each other either. So lets be clear, this is your personal opinion. Some people feel a world with no clothes would be a heck of lot better.

FrancinePrevost FrancinePrevost 3 years

What has your story to do with this board?

Jane38813 Jane38813 3 years

hmmm well from my childhood i really dont remember, i think i was about 7 or 8 when my dad stopped bathing me so soon after i was showering myself. i kinda remember telling him it "tickled" when he washed me "down there" and i think that stopped it. but it wasnt something i can remember being a big deal in the house. my mom just said time to be a big girl and shower by yourself and i was fine with that.

Fatherofthree Fatherofthree 7 years
Nudity doesn't have to always equal sex. So yes being one with nature swimming in the buff, and being air dried by a warm summer's sun and gentle sea breeze is a fantastic way to spend a summer’s afternoon. If you’re shy just do it far enough away from home so that you do not run unrepentantly into the Jones’s
staple-salad staple-salad 8 years
I don't remember when my mom stopped taking me into the bath with her, but it was when I was pretty young. But I can't imagine taking a 6-year-old to a swimming pool and making them go into a locker room alone. Especially if they don't grasp the concept of "stranger danger". And if I were in a locker room, and a 6-year-old boy came in, I wouldn't care. I'd expect them to be curious, but their hormones haven't kicked in so it's not like they'd DO anything other than maybe comment. And I doubt the kid would care for longer than 10 minutes.
kikidawn kikidawn 8 years
I think whenever the child is uncomfortable with it. I vaguely remember taking a bath with my dad when I was younger - I don't remember seeing anything, but I do remember having fun with him and washing his hair and "fixing" it for him :) I still walk in to my mom's bathroom when she is in the shower or in the bathtub. I still change in front of her and she changes in front of me. We are extremely close and I don't see anything wrong with it. Yeah, it may not be right for every family, but we are ok with it and it hasn't damaged me :oy: so whatevs ;)
lola102 lola102 8 years
Anonymous - I am a nanny, so while I understand your point about never allowing a child going into a locker room/restroom alone, I do feel that having a 6 year old in a womens locker room is inappropriate and disrespectful to the other women who pay to use the gym. You have the choice of leaving your child with a sitter at home or waiting to change/shower when you get home. A public restroom, absolutely take your little boy in with you, but a locker room where women are changing and showering is not appropriate. 6 year olds are VERY aware and they like to stare.
sham28 sham28 8 years
Anonymous, that's a really good point about the locker rooms and stranger danger. I have no idea what a parent is supposed to do with their 5/6 year old if they're not allowed in!! I imagine that a lot of moms "cheat." It's not like the kid has an ID.
Roarman Roarman 8 years
My son is two and we shower together occasionally to save time/water. I use to do the same with my daughter, but now that she is almost 9 she won't hear of it. Its up to what is comfortable for all involved.
Lyngay Lyngay 8 years
"Whenever the child is uncomfortable with it. " Yup. I shower with my almost-3 YO and I don't see us stopping anytime soon. But everyone's got their own comfort level with it. I want to reinforce for my daughter that our naked bodies are nothing to be ashamed of, I don't want to make an issue of it. I imagine in a few years she'll want to stop or I'll want to stop or whatever. But I do NOT think there is a set age that applies to everyone across the board.
lonebear lonebear 8 years
Hmm, as an expecting parent I had never thought about this. I wonder what the various child psych "experts" have to say about what's best for the kid?
sham28 sham28 8 years
I think somewhere in the 5 year old range? Most locker rooms forbid under 4 (for the opposite sex) I believe, but after kindergarten seems a little to observant/ chatty of an age.
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