A 33-year-old Michigan woman has unintentionally started an online movement, after her boyfriend's family joked about her having kids. Emily Bingham says she randomly found an ultrasound picture through a Google image search and then posted it on her Facebook page along with a post about it not being anybody's business if and when any woman will start a family.
Hey everyone!!! Now that I got your attention with this RANDOM ULTRASOUND PHOTO I grabbed from a Google image search, this is just a friendly P.S.A. that people's reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Before you ask the young married couple that has been together for seemingly forever when they are finally gonna start a family ... before you ask the parents of an only-child toddler when a Little Brother or Little Sister will be in the works ... before you ask a single 30-something if/when s/he plans on having children because, you know, clock's ticking ... just stop. Please stop. You don't know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don't know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn't right. You don't know who is on the fence about having kids or having more kids. You don't know who has decided it's not for them right now, or not for them ever. You don't know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration. Sure, for some people those questions may not cause any fraught feelings -- but I can tell you, from my own experiences and hearing about many friends' experiences -- it more than likely does.
Bingham's post, which she wrote on Sept. 20, has gone viral with more than 52,000 shares in the following days. It's also sparked a #noneofyourbusiness hashtag to start trending. She told ABC News, "My goal was to kind of make people aware of how many different experiences people might be having and step back and let them decide if they want to share for themselves if they want to have kids. I have been there. I have been the person who has pried a little too hard with a friend because they got married and I assumed that baby would be the next step only to find out they weren't planning on children at all."
Bingham isn't the only woman sounding off on the subject these days. Just last week, Chrissy Teigen and Tyra Banks shared their fertility struggles and the heartache they feel every time someone pries into their private lives.
As Bingham writes:
Bottom line: Whether you are a wanna-be grandparent or a well-intentioned friend or family member or a nosy neighbor, it's absolutely none of your business. Ask someone what they're excited about right now. Ask them what the best part of their day was. If a person wants to let you in on something as personal as their plans to have or not have children, they will tell you. If you're curious, just sit back and wait and let them do so by their own choosing, if and when they are ready.