30 Women Recall the Moment They Knew Their Marriage Was Over

"When I was pregnant and sick with our second son for two months before he was born and my husband came to visit me once. Once. Barely called, too." — Lisa M.

"When I didn't care where he was when he didn't come home from work . . . I knew." — Pat C.

"When I realized I did 90 percent of the work in the home, earned 95 percent of the money, paid all the bills, managed child care and food shopping . . . and when I said I was overwhelmed, he told me to try running my own business and see how stressful it is!" — Sue E.

"When the loneliness became so painful." — Natalie O.

"After years of emotional and psychological abuse and torture . . . I accused him of lying about something (about money, unbeknownst to him) and he admitted his affair. It was my ticket out!" — Rachel L.

"When I saw the text 'Can I still call you?' from the other girl in his phone." — Tracy C.

"He said 'maybe' he could look for job in a different field, his old field, since he hadn't found any work in his 'aspirational field.' Meanwhile, I was completely supporting us financially and couldn't take time off with our soon-to-be second child." — Danielle T.

"When he told me he fell out of love with me and wasn't attracted to me." — Caren C.

"When he put his hands on me." — Heather W.

"When I lost respect for him." — Maureen B.

"When he spent the kids' college money." — Jean B.

"When I realized he loved his pills more than he did me." — Katie I.

"He was gambling every day while I was pregnant with our second child and supporting him through grad school." — Lauren S.

"When I found out he was trolling for another woman the entire time he was in rehab!" — Jess G.

"When he said his motto was 'deny it to the end.'" — Dawn A.

"When he said, 'I know you are not OK with me bringing drugs into our home, but you are just going to have to deal with it because it's what I want.'" — Karen W.

"When I discovered he was hiding assets and income under phony trusts, including my car that I drove and the house that I live in . . . " — Laura L.

"When I found myself begging him to love me." — Angela A.

"When he wouldn't hold our newborn daughter." — Sara D.

"When I caught him red-handed with cocaine." — Christy T.

"When he just left us and didn't come back." — Hannah R.

"When he wasn't around during our pregnancy and when he was, he was mean and abusive." — Lisa G.

"When my 6-year-old son said he would never treat his wife the way his dad treats me." — Dena L.