A Mom Reflected on Her Accomplishments After Having a Baby at 20, and It's Something to Be Proud Of
Abbey Williams, a mom and child behavior health therapist and podcast producer at Mimosas With Moms, recently reflected on what it was like to become pregnant with her son, Oliver, at 20 years old. In the emotional Instagram post, she shared how alarmed — and downright terrified — she was when she found out she was expecting, and how much her life has changed since she was given the news a decade ago.
"Ten years ago, I sat in a doctor's office because I was so incredibly sick," she wrote. "I was being told by a doctor that I was not sick, I was pregnant. I was so incredibly scared because I was 20 years old and what in the world was I going to do? I was visiting offices collecting information about pro-life and abortions because I did have a choice."
Given her young age, Abbey felt pressured by the adults in her life to terminate the pregnancy. To them, there were so many unanswered questions that remained, particularly as far as her education and career were concerned. Regardless, she opted to keep her baby.
"Ten years ago, I was being told by my boss that if I did not have an abortion, I would never do anything with my life. I was being told by my parent that if I did not have an abortion, people would judge me, and so would they," she wrote. "My peers did not know how to react to my news. I chose to have my baby and stand up to the fight of my life even though I had no idea how hard it would actually be."
While she had a copareanting agreement with Oliver's father, she often found herself very much alone during the first six years of her motherhood journey. Although it was challenging to stay in college — let alone graduate school — and work toward a fulfilling career, Abbey did what was best for her family's future.
"Ten years ago, I was being told by my boss that if I did not have an abortion, I would never do anything with my life. I was being told by my parent that if I did not have an abortion, people would judge me, and so would they."
"Together, with that little boy, I have obtained my bachelor's degree. Together, with that little boy, I have encountered heartbreak. Together, with that little boy, I have faced seriously rough financial times. Together, with that little boy, I have fallen down a lot," she said, adding that despite some setbacks, she also made enormous strides. "Together, with that little boy, I grew. Together, with that little boy, I graduated number one in my class with my master's degree. Together, with that little boy, I got married to the most beautiful man I have ever known."
After meeting her now-husband in graduate school, Abbey went on to have three more kids. Now, Abbey is thriving with her happy, blended family. "I have a great coparenting relationship with Oliver's father," she told POPSUGAR. "We've never even been in a court room. We've been very practical and mature while raising him. Now that I have a blended family, my husband and Oliver's father work together coaching my son's teams. It's not been the traditional route, but there's a lot of love and respect."
Looking back, Abbey is overwhelmed with gratitude and pride at what she and Oliver have overcome. "Today, it is crazy to realize I have been on this motherhood journey for ten years," she said. "I am proud of where I stand today, what I have accomplished, and who I am. I am proud of the mother I am and continue to grow into."
"Today, I look at you and I am so proud. We have grown up together. It has not been easy," she said. "We have had some incredibly amazing adventures and some once-in-a-lifetime experiences in such a short amount of time. You are a beautiful, smart, and kind boy and I am so glad I choose to be your mother."
For more inspiring parenting stories, listen to Abbey's podcast, Mimosas With Moms.