15 Truths About Weaning No One Talks About

I cherished the quiet moments I had nursing my daughter. As she got older and started to squirm around more, this seemed to be my best opportunity for some snuggles. I worried it would end once I weaned. Fortunately, bottle-feeding also allows for that close contact, and my daughter still looks at me intently with her big eyes as I feed her.

Here's something I wasn't expecting: extreme nausea. About 48 hours after our last feed, I threw up multiple times. The feeling passed after a couple of hours, but it reminded me of morning sickness. Just like in early pregnancy, your hormones are changing rapidly when you stop breastfeeding. So be prepared for similar symptoms.

The "F" word. As a new mom committed to exclusively breastfeeding, I had a legit fear of formula. So when it came time to wean, I could barely look at the cans of organic formula my husband had researched and bought for us. I even made him give her the first bottle of formula while I was out of the house. But after a week, I started to accept it. And now, a month in, I appreciate how easy formula is. It helps that my daughter doesn't seem to know the difference.

Why does my face suddenly hurt? Oh, because there is a giant zit making itself at home underneath the surface. After a year and a half of clear skin, which started when I was pregnant and lasted through breastfeeding, hormonal acne was back.

Yes, you can safely drink alcohol while breastfeeding. But after I weaned, I suddenly felt liberated to enjoy myself a bit more. I no longer had to worry about waiting two hours between drinks and feeding. And if I wanted to stay out a little later with friends, I didn't have to make sure there was enough expressed milk at home. My husband could simply give her a bottle of formula.

Every woman is different. For some, their periods return as soon as their babies sleep through the night. Others will get it again once they drop a feeding or introduce solids. For me, it still hasn't returned, two months after introducing formula and solids and over one month since completely weaning from breastfeeding. It's normal for your cycle to take a few months to return. As I wait, I'm avoiding white pants.

Where did that cleavage go? I woke up one morning short at least two cup sizes. I did not recognize my boobs, which had steadily grown over pregnancy and nursing. I had to pull out my old bras.

Breastfeeding can make sex painful, according to the International Society For Sexual Medicine. That's because breastfeeding women have lower levels of estrogen. This starts to go back to normal when you wean, making intimacy easier and more pleasurable.

You're finally free! Free from hooking yourself up to a mechanical pump and feeling like a dairy cow. Free from lugging a pump to work and having to head to a lactation room at inopportune times. Free from washing pump parts a gazillion times a day. At least, that's how I felt when I could stop pumping.

Having more feeding options means you can more easily share the responsibility with your partner or other loved ones. For me, after I weaned, I spent my first night away from my daughter, leaving her with her grandparents. This was a way for me to treat myself and finally get a full night's sleep. Oh, how I missed it.

Once I finished breastfeeding, I saw my closet with a new set of eyes. It had been months since I'd worn a dress, since I didn't want to lift it up and flash everyone (more than necessary) when it came time to feed. Suddenly, I could wear all the pieces that made breastfeeding impractical.

Don't get rid of those nursing pads yet. Even after I fully weaned and my breasts shrank, I noticed some leaking milk in my bra from time to time. Considering some moms still produce milk for years, I won't be surprised if this lasts for a while.

It took about a month for me to go from exclusively breastfeeding to completely weaned. Each week, I would drop a feeding and replace it either with stored breast milk or formula. This was quite a painful process, since my breasts were producing milk with nowhere to go. To get some relief without stimulating more milk production, I gently expressed milk with a hand pump, trying to get as little as necessary to avoid engorgement and clogged ducts.

If you're ready to cut back on breastfeeding or want to stop pumping, you might want to consider partial weaning. That means continuing to nurse one or two times a day, as is convenient for you. Most women will find that their supply adjusts comfortably.

Creating a stockpile of frozen breast milk before you completely wean is another option for moms who want to continue giving their children some breast milk. To do that, you would have to pump and store milk in your freezer before you wean.

I didn't experience the baby blues after birth, but I imagine they feel a lot like the emotions I had when I began weaning. Sadness after breastfeeding is common, and many moms feel tearful or mildly depressed due to the sudden change in hormones and relationship with your baby. For me, it lasted a little more than two weeks. Be kind to yourself, and ask your partner and other loved ones to help cheer you up . . . or at least understand when your mood shifts.