I include both sex and intimacy because as some (OK, most) women may have experienced, sex is not always the top priority or even an interest after baby. My libido went from 100 to absolute zero, and it is still something I am working on.
Having said that, I'm making an effort. I listen to podcasts about sex after motherhood and I talk about it with my partner, although he most definitely wants to talk less and have sex more. I'm being honest (for the first time in . . . ever) about what I enjoy and what is not working for me. Think about what you like. What actually feels good? This can include everything from bedtime snuggles and public hand-holding and kisses, to your deepest and wildest fantasies.
When we are in a good place sexually, everything is better. I am not exaggerating; the quality of our sex life affects every aspect of our relationship. For us, this is a top priority and something that I am working through personally to get that libido back. Don't underestimate the power of sexual energy in your life and your relationship!
