Sex is a fantastic stress reliever, considering orgasms cause the body to produce feel-good hormones like endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin. The best positions, naturally, are the ones that maximize your pleasure and allow you to have as many orgasms as possible. If you're looking to bring your stress level down and your pleasure level up, we have eight tantalizing options for ways to get sexy tonight.
Bent over the furniture
"Nothing will get your mind off your worries like being taken while bent over the couch or leaning against the wall. These also allow you to add extra clitoral stimulation, to ensure a happy, stress-reducing ending," said Antonia Hall, MA, a psychologist, relationship expert, and sexpert and the award-winning author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life.
Seated Reverse Cowgirl
"With your partner seated on a chair or end of the bed, you'll sit on his lap, easing down onto him, which gives you control over depth and speed. This angle can be amazing for G-spot stimulation while also giving you room for a toy or fingers to stroke your clit. That dual stimulation can really add to your orgasmic potential," Hall said.
"This is an elevated missionary position with the woman on her back with legs raised. A pillow can be placed under her hips for support and better A-spot positioning. She can rest her ankles on his shoulders or hold her hips if she wants to spread her legs. This is a great position for deep penetration guaranteed to take her mind off of everything else. Plus, his thrusts can stimulate both her G-spot and A-spot, leading to full-body orgasms," Hall said. What stress?
"In this classic Tantric position, the man sits at the end of the bed or on a couch. The woman straddles him. This slow, intimate position is the zen of sex. Couples can look into each other's eyes, kiss deeply, synchronize their breathing, and connect deeply. It also offers her great G-spot stimulation and the opportunity to set the pace and depth," Hall said.
"If the woman's stress comes from having to be in charge and make all the decisions, sex from behind may be great for her because she is able to let someone else take charge and she can simply enjoy the experience," said Kryss Shane, sex and relationship expert and dual licensed mental health professional. Plus, she may be able to be stimulated internally and externally simultaneously, which can lead to a stronger orgasm and thus an additional endorphin boost.
Make sure that your partner knows that this is all for you right now. You're so stressed! "You just need to completely let go. You can have some of your absolute best orgasms through oral sex. The type that makes your entire body release, to the point that you might even feel like you're going to black out," said Laurel House, a dating and empowerment coach.
Role playing may allow her to relieve stress by gaining the ability to slip into a role that counters the role she lives that causes the stress. "This may mean more 'take-charge' sex for women who feel ignored or powerless or more submissive roles for women who can best relax and enjoy when they aren't expected to make all the decisions for a change," Shane said.
Solo sex can also be great, especially for women who spend much of their time focusing on the needs of others at home and/or in the workplace. "This can allow her to focus only on her own enjoyment. Some may wish to engage while alone; others may be open to engaging while their partner offers foot or neck massages," Shane said.