5 Ways to Tell If You're in Love, According to a Relationship Coach

To be clear, this doesn't mean everything about your relationship is going to be easy. There will still be bumps and mishaps along the way, as you learn how to merge your lives, communicate with each other, and resolve conflict — but when you're in love, even in moments of tension, "there's a sense of ease," Allen says. Nothing between you feels forced or inorganic, and you take comfort in knowing that what the two of you have can withstand these obstacles. Contrary to popular belief, love itself is easy. It's identifying and allowing yourself to love that can be difficult.