You'd be surprised how low the bar is. When I asked guys for their most creative tips, it took longer than expected to gather what I just shared. When I realized it would be tough, I asked the ladies in my circle about the best things guys had ever done on dates, and the responses were bleak. Here's a brief list of what the incredibly smart and talented women I surround myself with recalled as some of the "best" things from men on dates:
- Made plans and stuck to them (that's right, the best thing a guy has ever done is show up).
- Asked me about me instead of babbling about himself all night (also known as human decency).
- A subtle touch when things were going well. A brush against a shoulder after a joke or a light stroke on the hand can go a long way (note that's desired physical contact).
- Remembered something random I mentioned offhand and then turned that into a date (so . . . listened).
- I'm drawing a blank (exactly).
The dating tip of this section is: realize how low the bar is and be man enough to rise far above it.
In general, dating isn't about finding as many people to like you as possible, it's the one with whom the interest is the most mutual. With that said, don't be afraid to be a little quirky and communicative right off the bat. And don't forget your manners. Raise that bar, and good luck out there.
