I grew up the third of four children, and as I grew, I learned to avoid conflict at all cost. Before I knew it I was an adult, and my over-concern for people-pleasing was getting me into trouble. I was exhausted, emotionally drained, and close to burnout in almost every aspect of my life. Enter Scout.
Not only does this kitten have clear boundaries, but he communicates them well. If he doesn't want to be picked up, he will let you know. If he is done hanging out, then boy, he is done hanging out. Scout is clear on what he does and doesn't want, and he makes it known in a way that is impossible to ignore. By watching his example, I discovered that setting boundaries isn't selfish. In fact, it saves everybody a lot of grief and wasted effort. Now, I set boundaries just like Scout. Though usually with less meowing and fewer scratches.
