It'd be an understatement to say Xander and Vanessa's relationship was put through the wringer. The two each connected with other cast members during their trial marriage; Vanessa with Raelyn and Xander with Yoly. At one point, it seemed like the latter's connection had gotten serious, but Xander actually chose not to stay with Vanessa by the end of the season. It was a tough breakup in the season finale that resulted in some tears, followed by more at the reunion when the two rehashed their differences and decided to stay broken up for good. However, it seems they're still not on good terms.
Speaking to Tudum, Xander said Vanessa is "not someone that I would call a trusted, stable, reliable friend" today. Though they shared a "beautiful moment" at the reunion to open the door to a possible friendship, Xander said it didn't feel totally genuine. "We didn't talk all year, and then she reached out to me two weeks before the reunion," Xander recalled. "After the reunion, it was just like, poof, she was gone. It felt like her intentions again were not in the right place and not in my best interest."
Vanessa, meanwhile, tried to have another serious relationship after the show, and though it's since ended, she told Tudum, "It was beautiful to realize I could fall in love again." She added, "I struggled for a long time. I was single, sad, and crying every day, so to find myself again and to be able to fall in love with someone else was a really reaffirming experience."
Xander and Vanessa are both currently single.
