Help to replace bad behaviors with something else.
Dr. Reckmeyer uses the "biting stage" in preschool as an example of a "bad behavior" that elicits emotion in parents. "Parents get so focused on their child biting that they will constantly ask, ‘Did you bite anyone today?' or remind them, 'Hey, remember we don’t bite?' and everything is around what we don't do. You have to find the other things that the child is interested in and know what their talents are so that you can have another focus. Get away from the biting focus or it’s never going to change.”