Rule #3: Focus on the Desired Outcome
Even though our methods vary, my husband and I are often aligned in what we're hoping to achieve. At one point, we disagreed on how quickly we should intervene when our son became frustrated with a task. We talked through our hopes of fostering independence while maintaining a sense of safety and support, and the 2:1 rule was born. After two attempts at the task on his own and one attempt with verbal coaching, we've agreed to step in and help him get the job done. This focuses our efforts as parents and helps us understand each other a little better (a big plus in partner world).