10 Things Your Partner Should Never Say to You

Placing the blame on somebody else never solves the issue, even if they really were the source. Your partner should avoid pointing fingers and potentially escalating the situation and should explain how they feel rather than using accusatory statements.

Never, I repeat, never bring in the exes. Comparing your SO to someone else will not only anger you, but it could also imply that they're not completely over their previous relationship. This might even cause you to constantly worry about not being good enough. If your partner wants you to change in some way, they should ask what they need from you as a partner in a constructive way.

As a loving partner, they should be accepting of all your ideas and goals. If they keep shooting them down, you might not feel comfortable sharing your thoughts with them anymore. As ridiculous as some of the things an SO might say, there are better ways to show disapproval than outright rejecting them.

Even if they'd never take things to a physical level, saying so isn't that much better. In the peak of an argument, your partner should resist the urge to blurt out damaging things like this. It won't solve a single problem, and it'll probably fire you up even more.

This phrase is one of the most dangerous because the more you hear it, the more you might start to believe it yourself. Telling you that you're incompetent — even if they don't mean it — is extremely hurtful. This could affect a person's overall confidence and self-worth.

Telling someone that you were right and they were wrong is one of the most satisfying moments, but it doesn't improve the situation in any way. Not only is it totally annoying, but it can also hurt your ego in a way that goes beyond their playful intentions.

It's not fair for your partner to guilt trip you into getting their way. Putting that kind of pressure on you is manipulative because they know you're more likely to fulfill their request when they put your love in question.

When has criticizing your significant other ever ended well? If they love you, they wouldn't care about your appearance anyway. Instead, they should suggest their favorite pieces of yours rather than making you feel self-conscious and bad about your style choices.

This may sound sweet, but it can actually be very problematic. This could suggest a certain amount of dependency that exceeds a healthy level. Be wary of this phrase, because it can come with many expectations.

No one should ever tolerate being disrespected — especially by someone who claims they care about you. Take notice of any patterns and remove yourself from the toxic relationship if your partner continues that kind of awful behavior.

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