To help bolster your confidence as the “employer,” it’s helpful to remember that there really are plenty of fish in the sea. Women have a tendency to treat every guy like the last one they’ll ever meet for some reason, so they make excuses and justify bad behavior, incompatibility, that lip ring. Not everyone is going to be boyfriend material (and in places like New York City, far from it), and that’s totally normal and expected. You’re not going to be every single man’s dream girl either, and guys certainly don’t have a hard time letting us know that (or not letting us know that, aka disappearing).
We shouldn’t project a narrative on every guy we meet. Know your criteria and stick to them. If the guy — if 25 guys — don’t meet your qualifications, don’t sweat it. It takes time to find the right person, and when you do you’ll be glad you were patient instead of settling for someone who half knew who the vice president was. And just remember: you’re not being slutty, you’re being thorough.
