But maybe don’t ghost everyone so fast. If you’re not completely repulsed right away, keep an open mind. He may reveal a laundry list of attractive traits and similar interests and transform into your perfect match before your eyes. Or he may not. First dates are often just meh, and sometimes you’re just not sure if you like the guy or not. If I’ve learned one thing from my seven dates, it’s that the first impression can sometimes be completely inaccurate.
During my date with — we’ll call him M — he very assertively pulled me in for a kiss and we basically spent the rest of the date making out passionately. We had undeniable sexual chemistry. Very promising for my mission at hand, right? Well, that’s what I thought. I scheduled a shag session with him immediately, and we even built anticipation by texting back and forth over the next few days. It was all crazy hot. The sex . . . not so much. Sometimes the guy who’s really good at making out is just a guy who’s really good at making out.
On the other hand, when I met R, my first impression was that he seemed a little safe, a little dorky, and a little dad-like. I didn’t feel any sexual chemistry right away, and in fact, I almost wrote him off as just an asexual-type guy. But I gave him a second chance, and even a third — because we did have stimulating and humorous conversation — and boy was I glad I did. Because the guy who I initially deemed asexual turned out to be the best sex of my life. So. First impressions be damned.
