Things Divorced People Experience
15 Things About Divorce Only Divorced People Will Understand
When you've been through the trenches, you know how the war goes. That's exactly how it is when you've been through a divorce. You've lived to tell the tale. You've earned the battle scars . . . and the right to heal. Sure, divorce is more common today, and people who are married or single can understand the pains and gains of such a massive split, but they don't really understand it the way someone who is divorced does. When you've actually watched your marriage — that former fairy tale you used to dream about — crumble, it's life changing on so many levels. It can feel isolating and lonely, but there truly is a whole tribe of people who know exactly how you feel. Keep reading for 20 relatable things only divorced people will get.
1 You Feel Happy About Something So Devastating
Only people who have been divorced understand how happy you can be about something that is also — for you and for many other people — devastating.
2 A Small Trinket Can Have So Much Meaning
3 You Can Detest Someone You Once Really Loved
While everyone hopes (and should try) to have a peaceful divorce, it's not unusual to detest an ex . . . and people who are divorced get this!
4 Every Whisper or Conversation Can Make You Self-Conscious
5 How Tough It Can Be For You and Your Kids
No matter how hard you try, one parent just isn't around as much as your kid is used to after divorce. And you? Nobody knows the completely unique challenges of single parenthood like someone who's been there, done that.
6 Those First Few Months Alone Feel So Complex
7 Losing Pet Custody Can Be Either a Blessing or a Curse
8 Watching Someone Pack (or Packing Up All Your Stuff) Is Surreal
Saying goodbye after a breakup is one thing, but if you lived together, watching them pack their stuff is on an entirely different level. And packing when you're the one leaving during a divorce? Even worse. The finality of it all is something nobody can explain.
9 It's Incredibly Hard to Tell the Kids
No matter how many books you read on divorce, you're never going to feel prepared enough for the moment you tell the kids. It also usually never turns out exactly as you planned, but it's best to still think about what you're going to say ahead of time.
10 It Feels Strange and Good When You Kiss Someone New
11 You Feel Incredibly Vulnerable When Telling Your Parents
12 It's Beyond Frightening to Start Over
13 It's Extremely Isolating
Socializing and joining the world again as one can be isolating after living so long as "two."
14 You Really Need the Love and Support of Others
15 The Other Person Can Still Be Hurtful
