PS: My takeaway was thinking about the entitlement that I think white people can have to people of color, period, but also in relationships with Black people especially. To time, to make space that they aren't reciprocating to the same degree, to ask that considerations are made for you that aren't given both ways: there are just so many double standards and hypocrisies that can arise. And I think that's where I saw the parallel there.
HZ: Yes!
PS: Understanding that there is a visceral trauma attached to certain behaviors, wanting to extricate yourself from those [harmful] situations is, of course, completely reasonable.
HZ: Yes! Yes, for sure. It's funny because I actually had Jess read that chapter, because in that same chapter I'm talking about Puerto Rico, and she is supposedly from Puerto Rico. [laughs] But I allowed her to read that chapter, and one of the things that she found fault with is this idea of boundaries.
![PS: My takeaway was thinking about the entitlement that I think white people can have to people of color, period, but also in relationships with Black people especially. To time, to make space that they aren't reciprocating to the same degree, to ask that considerations are made for you that aren't given both ways: there are just so many double standards and hypocrisies that can arise. And I think that's where I saw the parallel there.
HZ: Yes!
PS: Understanding that there is a visceral trauma attached to certain behaviors, wanting to extricate yourself from those [harmful] situations is, of course, completely reasonable.
HZ: Yes! Yes, for sure. It's funny because I actually had Jess read that chapter, because in that same chapter I'm talking about Puerto Rico, and she is supposedly from Puerto Rico. [laughs] But I allowed her to read that chapter, and one of the things that she found fault with is this idea of boundaries.](https://media1.popsugar-assets.com/files/thumbor/REIY3pVpnF1p-wrg_wq1dXEBXtI/fit-in/1024x1024/filters:format_auto-!!-:strip_icc-!!-/2021/04/26/786/n/44344577/ae36d17b574b3512_GettyImages-1227930447/i/PS-My-takeaway-was-thinking-about-entitlement-that-I-think-white.jpg "PS: My takeaway was thinking about the entitlement that I think white people can have to people of color, period, but also in relationships with Black people especially. To time, to make space that they aren't reciprocating to the same degree, to ask that considerations are made for you that aren't given both ways: there are just so many double standards and hypocrisies that can arise. And I think that's where I saw the parallel there.
HZ: Yes!
PS: Understanding that there is a visceral trauma attached to certain behaviors, wanting to extricate yourself from those [harmful] situations is, of course, completely reasonable.
HZ: Yes! Yes, for sure. It's funny because I actually had Jess read that chapter, because in that same chapter I'm talking about Puerto Rico, and she is supposedly from Puerto Rico. [laughs] But I allowed her to read that chapter, and one of the things that she found fault with is this idea of boundaries.")
