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Should You Force Your Kid to Sit on Santa's Lap?

I Used to Force My Crying Child to Sit on Santa's Lap For a Photo, but Never Again

As a parent, it's pretty easy to make mistakes, especially around the holidays. Two years ago, in my excitement to establish new family traditions with my then one-and-a-half-year-old son, I completely ignored his personality and forced him to sit on Santa's lap for a photo. This is something I still feel guilty about and will never do again.

My son is quiet and kind. He loves people, but he also needs a second to get used to those people when they first meet. Despite knowing this, I was so eager to get that coveted photo of him sitting on the jolly, fat man's lap that I forced him to do so while kicking and screaming.

I now know that this was a terrible way to treat my son. He trusts me completely. I am his mom and it's my job to protect him from anything bad, confusing, or hurtful, and yet I was willing to let him scream and cry because of a silly holiday tradition. Tears streaming down his flushed cheeks, he kept reaching out for me to save him from the terrifying man he didn't know.

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This experience is what made me realize that I shouldn't force him to be uncomfortable just for a picture. I try and tell him to be weary of adults and to watch out for strangers; then I tell him, despite his wishes, to go sit on a random man's lap. To me, it's mixed messages at best and downright cruel at worst.

Every year I see photos on fridges, on social media, and in holiday cards of crying children with Santa. Thanks to movies and photos from our own childhoods, it's become a funny family tradition, something that every parent tries to check off in their laundry list of must-have pictures. And for a lot of people, they love this beloved tradition that provides them (and in the future, their child) with laughs for years to come. And that's totally fine! Every parent knows their kids best and what works for them, and for me, this just doesn't work.

If my son ever gets to that stage where he adores Santa and wants to sit next to him, that's fine and I will honor his wishes. Until then, I don't feel comfortable making him upset for a humorous photo to share with friends.

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