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How Do You Feel About Offering Health or Fitness Advice?

Is It OK to Offer Health or Fitness Advice?

Say you're eating lunch with a friend who's overweight. She's sipping a Diet Coke while dousing her salad in gobs of Ranch dressing, croutons, and shredded cheese. Would you politely offer some tips about how to make her meal lower in calories, or would you keep your mouth closed? Offering health and fitness advice is a tricky thing. There's a fine line you can cross over, where you end up hurting her feelings instead of helping her become healthier.

Is it your duty to spread the word of health and fitness to the world, or are you careful about who you spread the word to?

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Ahmed16099424 Ahmed16099424 2 years

Very nice

Beaner Beaner 7 years
I'm all about offering advice when it feels like I won't upset the other person. I have experience with weight loss and what works, but it took me years before I really understood it. I wish someone gave me some advice so I could have lost my weight quicker, so that's why I feel good about offering advice to others who seem to really be looking for it.
GirlOverboard GirlOverboard 7 years
I never just offer up health advice, but I'll gladly give a few encouraging words or perspective if it comes up in conversation. If I were sitting with a friend and she were drowning her salad in ranch and cheese while drinking a diet coke, that alone wouldn't prompt me to say anything. However, if she were to bust out with the "Yeah, I'm trying to eat more salads now to lose weight!" then I might relate and say that just upping veggie count in the daily diet is a great step in itself, but that as she adjusts to making salads part of her routine that she might want to explore other dressings, since creamy dressings tend to be higher in fat. I might also offer up that she'll use way less dressing if she just dips (dips, *not* scoops) her fork in the dressing before each bite. If somebody decides to open up and tell me about the changes they're making to their lifestyle, then I'll tell them what I know. If they get offended, then that's their choice and they're not really opening their minds up to the changes they need to make to get healthier. If they don't talk to me about it first, though, or if they're not a friend that has recently talked with me before about trying to change their diet, then I let them do their own thing and do my best to set a good example.
Giasbash6260 Giasbash6260 7 years
I love offering advice so much that I always go to the forum websites about health, nutrition & fitness and share my 2 cents on everything. I even write for a web site about nutrition too! You can see/read it here: I just started so there is only 3 articles, but don't worry - more to come! ha ha!
GlowingMoon GlowingMoon 7 years
I'm in same camp as hell no, I will keep my mouth shut. :) I think some women find me annoying as it is (with me just being me) without me telling them what to eat. I don't want an ass-kicking line forming in front of me. :) The subject of weight and dieting is too sensitive for me approach, ESPECIALLY when it's unsolicited.
RunningNina RunningNina 7 years
I generally don't unless somebody asks, but once I was in class and one girl was talking about her 500 calorie per day diet and I mentioned that it was incredibly unhealthy to do, especially since she's already skinny. Her reply? "Not if you are eating healthy foods." To which I said "It doesn't matter what you are eating, it's very unhealthy to only eat 500 calories per day, it's considered starvation." She didn't say anything to that.
sweety54992003 sweety54992003 7 years
I only offer advice to family because I care and know what a big difference in made in my life.For my family though, they dont care too much to hear anything so I try not to too much anymore. Unless they ask for dont say anything.
Spectra Spectra 7 years
I only give advice to people who ask me. I lost 90 lbs and have kept it off for almost 10 years now, so a lot of people ask me how I did it. When I tell them that I really changed my diet and started exercising, they ask what "diet" I did. I tell them I never went on a "diet"; I just started eating healthy foods. So then they ask me what foods are "healthy"...I try to be as helpful as I can be, but a lot of people say stuff like: "Veggies? Oh, I only like them with lots of Ranch dressing on them."
runswimmerrun runswimmerrun 7 years
ONLY is someone asks. I've been asked about exercises in the gym/pool and how many calories I think are in something. That is it to date.
Soniabonya Soniabonya 7 years
I offer advice when asked by people I know or sometimes I mention the healthy benefits of vegetable or fruit. I never advise strangers. The only time I offer my two cents freely is where my parents are concerned.
sudenmorsian sudenmorsian 7 years
I'm with the others in that I only offer advice if asked. The same goes to commenting how much calories there are in this and that and how you're almost feeling your certain bodyparts getting bigger while you're eating it, when you're eating in company. Seriously I was at a birthday party where one lady around her sixties couldn't keep quiet about how she gets fat and how she shouldn't be eating what she was eating. Especially when just by looking at her one could tell she doesn't follow any diet whatsoever...
chloe-bella chloe-bella 7 years
I don't really give health advice in the form of "you shouldn't be eating that," but I do give advice on eating healthy and exericising if someone else brings up the topic first. A lot of people assume that since I'm thin and I run marathons and do yoga several times a week that being physically fit comes naturally to me and that it's somehow easier for me than it is for them. So, when an overweight co-worker recently told me that she's trying to lose 80 lbs but that she has trouble sticking to a workout routine, I said something like "yeah, I remember when I started running regularly and could only run half a mile without walking. It was so frustrating but it gets easier if you stick with it." I wouldn't give unsolicited advice, though.
lilkimbo lilkimbo 7 years
I can't believe anyone would offer advice to strangers (unless they are specifically asking). How rude! (How can you be positive you won't end up offending someone you don't even know?) I offer advice only when asked. And, even then, I frame it in a, "this is what worked for me" context, not in a, "this is what you should do" context.
totygoliguez totygoliguez 7 years
Like everything in life, I only offer advice when asked. If someone asks me what I do, I'll just tell them. But when it comes to fitness, some people tend to be a little sensitive about the issue.
amber512 amber512 7 years
I have lost over 90 pounds, so friends and family have often asked me questions. The problem is that 90% of the time they just want me to confirm the diet myths that they want to be true. When I try to tell them that's not how it works, they usually just move on and talk to someone else!
Berzerker Berzerker 7 years
That's a good way to get sucker punched, and it would be well deserved. I can't stand arrogant health nuts; It's like they're health nuts only so they can bloviate even more than usual about how great they think they are.
onlysourcherry onlysourcherry 7 years
OMG no! Don't do it! There's this otherwise lovely woman at my work, where if she sees you taking a cookie she'll say "oh, those are really high in calories. I don't eat them." Or at the Christmas party We had one hors d'oeuvre, and she goes "oh, that was so fatty! I won't be eating anything else. Oh, you're eating something else after that fatty hors d'oeuvre?" It's TERRIBLE! Don't do it unless asked!
Sundown321 Sundown321 7 years
I only give advice to friends that agree to start living a healthier life. I am pretty good at talking people into making that decision, but I will only give advice once they have expressed an interest... If not I fear looking like the "judgmental friend" that Tres Sugar has been talking about!
ticamorena ticamorena 7 years
i never do, unless somebody specifically requests my imput and i'm happy to request advice when i want to; i just shudder recalling all the useless unsolicite health/fitness advice i've been given in the past, and particularly, people using 'advice' as a guise to critique my lifestyle, appearance, diet, what/how i exercise etc
TheLittleMonster TheLittleMonster 7 years
Noooo. I've tried helping a dieting friend, but she got very defensive and it almost ruined our friendship. So now I keep my mouth shut when I see someone making a mistake in their diet or in their form at the gym. It's none of my business unless I am asked for advice. Some people I know do ask for my advice, and in that case I'm happy to tell them what I know or what's worked for me.
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