On Her Journey:
Growing up, Alexmi Polanco didn't see therapists who looked like her. So for years, she didn't think it was something she could actually do for a living. She also grew up in a Dominican household, where therapy was seen as something for "locos." But she always felt this calling in her to help people, and it wasn't until her last years in high school after speaking to an adviser that she realized this was the work she was meant to do.
"These misconceptions the Latino community has about therapy comes from ancestral beliefs going back to slavery and colonization. Our people had to learn not to pay attention to these kinds of things because we had to survive, and it's literally how a lot of people still think about [therapy] today," she said. "Like, I have bills. I have kids. Literally, we've been trained to function and live from a place of survival, and when you are in this place, you can't think about mental health unless you're to the point where you're 'crazy.' This is why we don't prioritize mental health, and even when we get sick, a lot of people are like, 'I need to fix myself to go back to survival.' It's not even, 'I need to get better to better myself.' It's like, 'I need to get better because I have these responsibilities that I need to get back to.'"
Polanco quickly realized that she wanted to be the change in her community and set forth on her career path toward being a licensed therapist. Through her own spiritual journey, she noticed that spirituality was the missing piece in psychology. Growing up, her Dominican mother practiced the Dominican spiritual practice of the 21 Divisions. She attended rituals and ceremonies as a child, but after realizing that it wasn't something accepted by everyone in the community and that it was still seen as taboo by Christian and Catholic Latinx folks, it took her a while to fully embrace it. Even after her own awakening, Polanco felt hesitant to incorporate it in her work because it went against her trainings.
"A lot of the foundational classic theories of psychology were founded and created by white men and centuries ago. These white men created these modalities based off their experiences with white clients. Till this day, these theories are used in our trainings because they do explain a lot, but they also leave out the nuances of different cultures," she said.
A psychopathology course where a white professor spoke about diagnosing as schizophrenic a Latina patient claiming to be in communication with her deceased husband inspired Polanco to make a change to the way she was practicing. She claims that misdiagnosing Latinx communities is something she's witnessed happening a lot, especially with Black and Brown folks who are intuitive themselves.
"As a mental health expert, I've worked in clinics, I've had colleagues, and there definitely is a misdiagnosis going on, which is why in that moment, I decided when I have my own practice, I have to practice differently, because that's not a hallucination," she said. "I've had so many people since I started my practice come to me and tell me that they won't go to therapy because when they have gone and they've shared things, they were referred to a psychologist for meds. A lot of the clients I have have expressed to me that they don't feel comfortable going to someone who won't understand what this is or how this is a part of their lives."
What She Does:
Because of the strict regulations that exist in the field, especially regarding insurance, Polanco works in private practice and currently doesn't take insurance. But to make her services more accessible for Black and Brown folks, she started her business Poder Healing, a holistic hub with different POC providers from different specialties that cater and provide services to the BIPOC community. They have a spiritualist who provides services like tarot-card reading. There's also access to therapeutic services like therapy sessions or child and family counseling sessions. Polanco provides everything from therapy sessions to energy healing like reiki. In her private practice, if spiritual downloads come to her during a session, she's able to provide them to the client to help them get closer to self-awareness.
"In the field in general, there has been this idea, because it goes back to the foundational way that psychology has been practiced and spirituality has never been a part of it, because there's been this idea that mental health is just about the mind, and if it's just about the mind, you don't have to think or consider anything else. The idea that the mind, body, and spirit is connected is actually a new way of seeing things," Polanco said. "But even today, there are so many restrictions. I would not be allowed to practice in a clinic because it has to be things that are 'evidence based.' You can only do this in private practice, which is also why private practices charge what they charge. So I knew this was what I wanted to do even before I graduated . . . my goal is to help [clients] to really reconnect to their core self. Live life authentically and reconnect with your life, because we all have something within us. We just don't all tap into it. We're not all aware of it. But what I do tell my clients to do is reconnect to your authentic self, and you'll find your light."
Where to Find Her:
@poderhealing