What to Talk About on Your First Date After a Divorce

Steer clear of politics — unless your beliefs are so deeply entrenched that you can't be with someone who thinks differently than you do — and talk about books or sites you enjoy reading instead. You can learn a lot about someone by what he or she reads. Whether it's the New York Times or ESPN or a novel, your date's reading habits are telling and can also lead to good conversation.

If you can't get enough "ohm" from your life and you enjoy meditation and yoga, you should share this with your date. First, it's a great way to see if this person might have a similar lifestyle as yours, but second, if you're passionate about something, your energy and excitement will shine through!

Talk about the people you love the most, in the best way. Your date doesn't need to hear all the dirty details but would like to know who you enjoy spending time with and how your friends are involved in your life.

Whether you like to do woodwork or enjoy painting, share examples of how you like to get creative with your date. You may find common ground, and it is a great place to jump-start a conversation. You can show pictures of your work, too, if you're feeling bold.

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This is a conversation that is neutral and drama-free . . . well, usually. Any info on where you'd love to go or where you're planning to visit next is a great way to find common ground.

It's not like you can "talk" out your sense of humor, but you can share comedians/comediennes who you find really funny. Share things that make you smile, whether it's a TV show, hilarious memoir, sarcasm, or what have you. It's interesting to learn what makes one person laugh . . . or what doesn't!

If you have kids . . . some people will say don't talk about them. Sorry — I disagree. I will say, don't talk about them ad nauseam. Your date is trying to date you . . . not your kid(s). Not yet, at least. But talking about the family members you are close to is a good thing. I would save any family drama, though, for a different date — not date one!

Did you go to college? Are you particularly proud of your alma mater? Share about your school experience, whether it's high school, college, or beyond. Experiences you have in school and your education are things most people can relate to.

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This can be a serious question, especially for us music-lovers. Who did you see on tour last? Do you dig shows? How often do you go? Are you a musician, too?

Do you love the great outdoors? Or perhaps you prefer binge-watching shows on Netflix from the comfort of your couch for days at a time. Share how much you embrace the outdoors and getting out there in nature. And if you wouldn't camp to save your life, well, you can share that, too!

Are you a social butterfly, joining every cause and every party? Or do you prefer sitting back in a small group? This is a good conversation to have on your first date postdivorce!

Can't stand exercising? Or are you a gym rat? I think talking about what you enjoy doing in terms of activity level is important. For me, I am very active and want someone who is as well, so putting out the feelers right away tells me if I've got a fitness buff on my hands or not.

Diehard dog owner? On "Team Cat?" Love all furry friends? Share your love for your four-legged friend. This way, if your date is antipets, you know it's over before you even get the check!