I Went on 7 Tinder Dates in 9 Days, and Here's What I Learned

This relates back to not letting a first impression inform your decision about a guy. Like I said, many dates will leave you not with butterflies or disappointment but simply a shrug. In the case that you’re completely on the fence about a guy — as in he could marry someone the next day or ask you to go ice skating and you’d be OK with either scenario — then channel your inner “yes” person and just go for it. Go on that second date.

Like I said, after my first date with R, I was pretty indifferent. I did find him cute, smart, and funny, but because I didn’t feel the sexual chemistry, I almost ghosted him or fed him some excuse about getting back together with my ex. However, I was just curious enough to say yes after he asked to go out again. And whaddya know — I’m still seeing him. So yeah. I guess sexual chemistry can develop over time, because — not to rub it in, but — damn.