Lessons Your Son Should Learn
15 Important Life Lessons I Want My Sons to Learn
As I'm raising my two rambunctious boys, there seems to be a plethora of things that I hope to teach them as they grow into men. Now more than ever, I feel that it's important to be mindful of the way we mother our boys, making sure they know from a very young age how to be decent, honorable, and respectful people. From the big, small, messy, and awkward, here are the most important lessons I hope to teach my sons to help them navigate this world.
- Understand consent and coercion. The current climate is doing a lot to teach people about sexual misconduct, and it will benefit the younger generation to understand this as clearly as possible, as soon as possible.
- Never toy with a person's feelings. Whether you're dealing with a friend or a partner, don't ever abuse the vulnerability someone hands over to you when they like you.
- Recognize privilege, and learn how to foster gratitude.
- Have female friends and allow them to cultivate your sense of empathy and deep, platonic relationships.
- Understand that #thefutureisfemale has room for you. Empowered men and women lift society up.
- Be a citizen of the world. Know there is great value in getting to know people from different walks of life.
- Always lead with kindness. There's a time for truth, of course, but try to err on the side of compassion always.
- Understand the definition of complicit. Have the strength to speak up when it's the hardest, but most necessary.
- Do something you love. Life is a lot more fun when you're passionate about your career and eager to invest 40 hours a week into it.
- Read and you will never be without friends. Learning to be happy when alone is a skill that can be taught.
- Spend time in service. Do charity work and always give 10 percent of your income to those in need. This, too, will foster gratitude.
- Be a gentleman and always lend a hand to anyone in need. Always pay for yourself and others, if you can afford it. Know that money is only important when you don't have it.
- Don't ever lie about who you are. No matter how scary it may be, live your truth openly, and if there's something you don't feel good about, change it.
- Have a great relationship with your parents, because men that do are usually gold.
- God is everywhere, and you are a spiritual being. Explore the right path for you and let it be the moral compass that guides you through life.