Based on your child's age and the sources of their anxiety, involving their teacher "can sometimes backfire" and make your child feel more vulnerable. "Your child might feel like everyone is looking at them, or that their teacher helping them out could make them easier to pick on," Dr. Alter told us.
If you think involving your child's teacher is definitely necessary, be sure to approach them the right way. Pick a private time to talk to them, rather than in the chaos of morning drop-off, and be sure to focus on your child and their needs rather than the things you think the teacher herself can be doing better. You'll both need to work together to figure out what's best for your little one, which means listening to each other's suggestions and brainstorming solutions.
