"It's frustrating to accept that folks will make mistakes, but if I know I'm with people who are practicing and making efforts to learn on their own, then I'm able to let go of some of that frustration, and that improves my mental health," they added. "I'm able to hold folks accountable and expect respect, but I don't get too down if folks aren't perfect," they added. It helps let go of some of the fear and anticipation of being misgendered, which often takes a lot of their energy, they said.
It can take a lot of courage to walk into new spaces because you're never sure if they will be safe and/or affirming. "Take a friend if you can to act as an ally or support person if you want to try a class somewhere, Amber suggested. Email the gym or studio owner and ask what level of inclusivity training they or their staff have had. Or check out their website to see if they announce their allyship to queer folks. Anything you can do to feel more comfortable at a class, gym, or sport will make your experience more positive. And as Leventry has explained, sports and fitness can greatly improve your mental health.
