Does My Kid Have Anger Issues? These Are the Signs to Look Out For
Temper tantrums are a part of most most children's lives, no matter how much we'd love to wish or rationalize them away. Whether your kid is melting down because you cut their morning toast the wrong way or getting angry for reasons you can actually wrap your head around (homework frustrations, an abnormally early bedtime), tantrums are as rough on a parent as they are on your little one. They can also be even rougher as your child leaves the toddler years behind, gaining both strength and a greater arsenal of ways to lash out.
But when does a tantrum cross the line from normal child behavior to a danger zone that needs further attention? The general answer is that there is no one answer (welcome to parenting!). It's fairly common for kids who struggle with their emotions to lose control in a scary way — hitting, screaming, throwing things, and biting might all be on the emotional-outburst menu. But if your child is repeatedly lashing out, being defiant, or acting aggressively, posing a risk to themselves or others or wreaking havoc at home or at school, it might be time to take a closer look at their anger, its triggers, and your reactions.
When your child is lashing out over and over again, they're most likely telling you that they are overwhelmed and distressed and can't figure out a constructive way to manage those emotions. And as parents, it's our job to help — or to find a professional who can. Here's where to start if you're worried about your child's anger.