5 Things I Do Each Year That Help Ease My Social Anxiety During the Holidays

It may sound cliché, but one of the best ways I manage my social anxiety during the holidays is by stepping back a bit from the frenzied shopping and gift-related stress and simply remembering what the season is about: being grateful for and spending time with the ones I love. At least for me, finding the "perfect gift" can sometimes be too much to handle, especially when finding it means frantically wading through crowds at the mall.

Although it's practically impossible to forget about material gifts — and giving your mom a perfume because you know she loves the smell of gardenias can fill you both with joy — reminding yourself that the point of the season is not what gift you gave or received can be helpful in easing the stress. I've even taken it one step further, by buying gifts weeks or months in advance or suggesting a Secret Santa exchange with family and friends to help take the pressure off.

This holiday season, I'm more committed than ever to turning down invites when I don't feel up to the task. You might feel obligated to go to a friend's New Year's Eve bash or that extended-family Christmas, but in my experience, it's actually liberating to admit when you're feeling overwhelmed. You'll probably find that you're not alone. Instead of braving parties unnecessarily, save your energy for the gatherings that matter most.

When the social obligations of the season leave you feeling depleted, it's important to take some time for yourself. I've always loved decorating for the holidays, as I find it almost meditative — it takes my mind off things for a while, and I get excited about the holidays all over again. Maybe you like to get crafty or bake or just have a seat and listen to some music. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as it brings you happiness.

One thing that has helped ease my anxiety during the holidays is coming up with traditions that make me feel comfortable and at home. It gives me some sense of control, which reduces unwanted stress. For example, if you typically feel overwhelmed at New Year's Eve parties, a small bonfire at the beach with your closest friends might be a better way to ring in the new year. Whatever the case, have the courage to create traditions that feel right for you.